finally found the time to read this and it’s so real!! if i didn’t set alone time for myself i would never had found the time to read this. i love your updates please keep them ❤️ there’s something lovely about watching your life through a snowglobe of summaries
'Maybe the conclusion is that we’re fundamentally lonely people, and we must first be okay with being alone to become okay with finding joy in other people without basing our value on them.' PERIODTFNKJDFNKENRFJO!!!!
on a more serious note i seriously enjoyed reading this, 10/10
"What’s a version of yourself that isn’t flashy or famous?"
Understanding why you want to do something is important. If the why is good the way will come. The why comes with time and intuition, but mostly through being honest with yourself. I'm glad you're having fun; not enough people do that.
It's really difficult to do that, especially when sometimes our motivations are not things we appreciate about ourselves? I'm not sure if we should be changing our motivations once we realize them or if we should just accept them...
You don't have to accept anything except physics (even then, the best parts of physics came from not accepting physics) but I do think it's good to be as close to the truth as possible. Motivation also doesn't have to be one singular, perfect thing; you can start with some dimensionality reduction and go from there.
Claire, how to be lonely, and the delusion of grandeur are one of the most relatable things I have read in a very long time. I don't think I have seen anyone be this honest with themselves and others about everything. Each sentence feels like stolen from my own hidden thoughts, appearing on the page to call me out. I do like to feel special. I do wonder what if startup doesn't work out. I don't know if just academia and calm life would be okay for me. I do feel like others are just hidden in their shells going on about their lifes, unaware of other possibilities. I despise people with great potential and possibilities going into finance. I am afraid of starting from scratch or 'low-level', and I was pushing to avoid that.
I do feel like I take into account external validation. I also do think that there are some thoughts that remain unresolved. External validation isn't entirely bad. I treat it as such because I believe it hinders long-term thinking. But, it also aligns with my motivations. I want to make the biggest impact on people possible. To make humanity better. External motivation might simply be a feedback loop on your impact-driven journey. A sign that your work is going in the right direction for humanity. Validation might be a sign that your research or project, or startup, is bringing a net benefit to people. I think that validation matters so much to me, exactly because it tells me that there should be more of what I am doing in the world, and that it is pushing humanity in the right direction. Relying on external validation also feels bad for me as it does for you, but offers a healthy reality check. However, I try to only apply this to projects, not me as a person. I have accepted the fact that I might not feel validated by "known" people, and rely on my loved ones. I think I seek external validation because it makes me feel like the work I am doing is pushing people in the right direction, not because I am a "good" human. The problem is when you start becoming deeply associated with your work — beware startup founders. I don't have a solution for this emotional association yet. Although I think that looking at things like problems to solve makes it easier to flow between treating it like your associated work, or just a proposed engineering solution to your chosen problem.
That was just my two cents, this comment is already too long. Just wanted to say I really enjoyed reading this. Would love to hear your "rant" on your solution to external validation as well.
finally found the time to read this and it’s so real!! if i didn’t set alone time for myself i would never had found the time to read this. i love your updates please keep them ❤️ there’s something lovely about watching your life through a snowglobe of summaries
Nobody has the right to be this cracked yet this eloquent and relatable
ur writing is to die for
I lvoe u
Claire W
Connor A.
'Maybe the conclusion is that we’re fundamentally lonely people, and we must first be okay with being alone to become okay with finding joy in other people without basing our value on them.' PERIODTFNKJDFNKENRFJO!!!!
on a more serious note i seriously enjoyed reading this, 10/10
God it’s so hard -- we have to keep remembering that or we get lost
I am here for the Claire writings 🤩
Love this !!!
"What’s a version of yourself that isn’t flashy or famous?"
Understanding why you want to do something is important. If the why is good the way will come. The why comes with time and intuition, but mostly through being honest with yourself. I'm glad you're having fun; not enough people do that.
It's really difficult to do that, especially when sometimes our motivations are not things we appreciate about ourselves? I'm not sure if we should be changing our motivations once we realize them or if we should just accept them...
You don't have to accept anything except physics (even then, the best parts of physics came from not accepting physics) but I do think it's good to be as close to the truth as possible. Motivation also doesn't have to be one singular, perfect thing; you can start with some dimensionality reduction and go from there.
Claire, how to be lonely, and the delusion of grandeur are one of the most relatable things I have read in a very long time. I don't think I have seen anyone be this honest with themselves and others about everything. Each sentence feels like stolen from my own hidden thoughts, appearing on the page to call me out. I do like to feel special. I do wonder what if startup doesn't work out. I don't know if just academia and calm life would be okay for me. I do feel like others are just hidden in their shells going on about their lifes, unaware of other possibilities. I despise people with great potential and possibilities going into finance. I am afraid of starting from scratch or 'low-level', and I was pushing to avoid that.
I do feel like I take into account external validation. I also do think that there are some thoughts that remain unresolved. External validation isn't entirely bad. I treat it as such because I believe it hinders long-term thinking. But, it also aligns with my motivations. I want to make the biggest impact on people possible. To make humanity better. External motivation might simply be a feedback loop on your impact-driven journey. A sign that your work is going in the right direction for humanity. Validation might be a sign that your research or project, or startup, is bringing a net benefit to people. I think that validation matters so much to me, exactly because it tells me that there should be more of what I am doing in the world, and that it is pushing humanity in the right direction. Relying on external validation also feels bad for me as it does for you, but offers a healthy reality check. However, I try to only apply this to projects, not me as a person. I have accepted the fact that I might not feel validated by "known" people, and rely on my loved ones. I think I seek external validation because it makes me feel like the work I am doing is pushing people in the right direction, not because I am a "good" human. The problem is when you start becoming deeply associated with your work — beware startup founders. I don't have a solution for this emotional association yet. Although I think that looking at things like problems to solve makes it easier to flow between treating it like your associated work, or just a proposed engineering solution to your chosen problem.
That was just my two cents, this comment is already too long. Just wanted to say I really enjoyed reading this. Would love to hear your "rant" on your solution to external validation as well.